From a simple psychological standpoint, it’s learned behavior. Your brain isn’t designed to keep you happy, it’s designed to keep you safe. In trying to always be right (feel important and feel safe), some people would literally be messing with their own identity, if they tried to search for a way they could be wrong. They HAVE to be right, and their emotional drivers are Significance and Certainty. Translation → their comfort zone isn’t that comfortable. The patterns they developed as a child no longer serve them.
From a physiological standpoint, we are all self-medicating. Neurotransmitters are released, when we have a feeling (any feeling). Neurotransmitters tell the nervous system how to act. Adrenaline and Cortisol let us know there is danger, and when we perceive danger, you get a big hit of them, and you can’t think as straight…literally less intelligent. Problem is, it impacts not only ability to think, but immune system, shallow breathing, improper blood flow, etc, etc, etc. All of the energy is channeled into keeping you alive, you get dumber and less able to think, and then you say a bunch of dumb shit on message boards. Jooooooking, joking, joking
In short, being pissed all the time makes you stupid You literally can’t think as well, would do worse on an IQ test, can’t drive as well, etc. When we are triggered, we revert back to the patterns that we developed between the ages of 4 & 7 years of age.
The stuff that worked for us then no longer works for us as adults, but we keep doing it anyway.
If this resonates with you…it IS broke…and DO fix it You can, BTW. All people can fix it. All people have different levels of this going on in their lives. I get emotions too, I just recognize them and don’t let them run me.
The difference in thinking…One guy will say “YOU’RE A ■■■■■■■ PRICK”
While the other guy says … “I notice I’m angry. What is causing this? Is this real? Why do would I even care?”
People literally tell themselves stories to support their their opinion…which is really designed to get them back to their drug of choice. I am drug of choice overwhelm, but I used to be drug of choice anger (probably why I am so incredibly understanding of the angry folks).