I was on a call with a female client last Wednesday. She said she saw one of her ex’s and said, “OMG! WTF was I thinking, in dating this guy.”
That statement perpetuates the energy forward, as she is …
a) Judging herself…and
b) Judging him
What if instead she had noticed how unhealthy he is, and recognized that ppl who love themselves dont’ behave the way he behaves, and that he must be hurting. Also…I know to stay away from people who are projecting thier hurt?
This prevents her from judging him.
To hedge against judging herself, what if she instead celebrates her own growth, and her own ability to discern the difference between an unhealthy person who makes bad choices for himself, and a healthy king that would treat her right?
In discerning between the difference between a cheatin’ass ho and a beautiful lover, I can see the difference.
Dan Campbell ain’t no cheatin’ ass ho! He’s the real deal.
I have grown from watching all of the losers and can tell the difference now. Dan is an ultra-winner. He is everything I have ever wanted for the Lions. EXACTLY what I’ve wanted.
Celebrate the growth.
Celebrate the ability to discern.
If you go in expecting failure, you WILL create it.
Nobody should be dating a person they dont’ trust. If you never live fully, you are never fully alive. Celebrate and have fun! Holding back passion for fear of being hurt rips away 80% of yoru fun, in an attempt to avoid pain.
That’s trauma bonding.