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One of my favorite movies
I hate failing
I donāt even know that they were A-holes. Some people really struggle accepting charity. There is of course no shame in that. He said it was in front of a ton of people which may have played a role.
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You only fail if you donāt learn and donāt keep trying
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I will do it again
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The ladies of Chatham still walk funny 40 years later
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Its not a āfail.ā You faced your fear and made it happen. The result is completely on them, not you. Reprogram your brain for success to be in the processā¦not the result. The only thing you can control is the process. The result is completely out of your control. My wife used to be a market manager for a beer distributor. Part of her job was literally going to bars and offering free beer to people already drinking beer. You would not believe the number of times people said āno thanks.ā
If you want the results to be for someone to accept, offer me a Titleist SM10 Vokey wedge while they are on sale for $150. I promise I will accept!!!
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Iāll take one too, 56 degree please. LOL.
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Donate anonymously. āLet not the left hand know what the right does,ā lest the charity become a vehicle for getting praise.
When the recipient gets anonymous charity, they canāt attribute it to a particular individual. It could be any individualā¦ and so must be attributed to humanity at large, if not God.
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Great job Marty, proud of you for stepping out of the comfort zone.
Iāve something similar on and off in my travels when eating out but typically do it anonymously. Telling the server that I have their meal covered but would prefer to keep it between us.
This allows them to accept, they donāt have a choice, and you may have helped someone in need or at least givn them a bright spot in their day if they donāt need it. They may pay it forward. You let them know that the world isnāt full of aholes.
I was the recipient of something like this many years back and paid it forward in a similar vein when I was able to do so.
Great job.
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People just do what they do
If you pick up a puppyā¦ He will lick your face.
If you pick up a snake, Most likely He will bite you
People operate the same way
You just have to ask yourself, did you help them because they were appreciative peopleā¦ Or did you help them because they needed help?
You just be yourself, and know yourself
The only personās validation that you need is from you
When youāre connecting with people in public, the more confidence you have in yourself, the more confidence people will have in you
Have faith that you are doing the right thing in reaching out for connectionā¦ Which really means loveā¦ And sharing, loving experiences with other people
Clearly, there are levels and layers to this, but just sending love to you, brotherā¦ I hope this helpsā¦ I could talk about this for three hours, if I really wanted to go deep into it
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Itās not a failureā¦.from what you have said it is as much to help you as it is them, the fact that your not deterred shows you that!
I kind of like the mantraā¦..some times we need to fail so when know what success feels like. Always appreciate a sunny day after a storm!
You didnāt fail and youāre a good dude, just keep doing what is good for you!
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Marty you are the man!
The covered meal is a tricky play, and some people might bristle when itās done face to face. It would take a lot of guts to go to their table!
Iāve done it the same way Jane describes, but never had it in me to offer more than a wave of the waiter told the other patrons.
Like others are saying, keep that kindness flowing and good things will happen. (PS that āgoodā tried auto correcting to āGodā)
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Hey Marty, I appreciate you. Donāt be so hard on yourself, itās okay to give ourselves grace in this thing called life
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@Martymcfly2017, did you explain that your just a normal guy with a kind heart and you would like to give them the gift of $200, to use towards food? maybe you should-have mentioned that-first.?
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Yep, the world would be a much better place if people would embrace failure/being wrong. There would be no success without failure, we wouldnāt even know the meaning of the word.
A baseball hitter who only āfailsā 7 out of ever 10 times he tries is considered great.
A science experiment fails every single time until the last one, and even that only happens part of the time. But during process of trying you might produce stuff like penicillin, x-rays, microwaves, pacemakers, silly putty, on and on.
Itās the attempt/process thatās important, not the success or failure.
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itās just people, sure SOME are going to be rude, some may not respond to you, but there are many more that will respond in kind, No skin off your back if they call you names or donāt reply.
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As many on here have said, you didnāt fail. Going through with it despite your worries was a major, major success, in fact. Itās never a failure to try and be a nice person.
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