More gaslighting.
See the âparaphrasingâ you see âŚthrough your lens. Zero of that is quote (or flirts with fact). You are crying about what you are accusing others of crying about.
One person is talking psychology & the other is talking football. Because itâs not quoting football facts, itâs âuncritical thinkingââŚWhy? Cuz you said so.
Lots of ego involved in that line of thinkingâŚOr an innocent victim that is being picked on by the handsome guy?
Letâs ask ourselfâŚis this a pattern for me? for the bald guy? Does he show up that way everywhere, or is it just me who experiences him this way? Am I running into these âissuesâ with lots of ppl, or just one?
Pro tip â if you have an âissueâ with lots of ppl, it may be time to look in the mirror. Even if itâs just one, look in the mirror any way (I am as we speak)
⌠alsoâŚit can be usex to bring ppl together
-Lions fans are handsome AF
-Lions fans are more handsome than Packer fans, etc
-Jokes about GOAT at every position on our team
Unification, bruh! Not division/ decisive See the difference?
Or â recognizing patterns in myself & others & taking a look at them from a non-triggered place?
See?
Which seems more realistic? Consider the source & take it for what itâs worth.
Happy ppl are generally gonna be up to happy things.
Angry ppl are angry
dramatic people do dramatic things
SaD people Do sad things, etc.
You realize this whole exchange started because you accused me of having a double standard and when asked for actual statements and you realized you were wrong it devolved into the normal Natty regressive psychobabble word soup
Iâve seen with my eyes evidence to the contrary, both on the board, & in my inbox when ppl xonât want to deal with you so they keep it to themselves.
We attract what we be. We attract our tribe, as well as the lessons we are supposed to see. all just feedback from the universe, man.
The difference between a judgment & an observation is the energy behind the words. Am I at peace when Iâm talking? yup. Am I looking at myself & my own energy when Iâm talking? Yup. Am I human & âunconsciousâ in moments? Yup
Is âunconsciousâ my general way of showing up? Nope.
Everything & Everyone is a mirror for every single person. The biggest mirror we have is our energy. How are you feeling? That gives you great insight as to wether you are in alignment or not.
Inverse is true & I am aware when I talk about this sort of stuff it will be highly triggering to a percentage of ppl that see it. If Iâm not talking in one of my menâs groups where I am specifically chosen to mentor them, there will ALWAYS be some that criticize, disagree, & even lash out at times. Itâs not a new concept for meâŚif you do what I do for a living, there is a 100% chance of being highly criticized by a percentage of society. Itâs teh exact opposite of hiding & staying close off.
Nobody is putting thoughts in that dome except for you. You know how you could have easily reached me? Just answered when I said show what statements I made that showed a double standard. Imagine that
Would have been waaaay easier than going all Wonky Dr Phil
Lazy languaging by me â Assuming you know my thoughts.
I was equating it to âputting words in my mouthââŚ& you know itâŚbut trivial arguing that means nothing, in an attempt to âcall someone outâ
Have been there/ Done that. Leads to the same path every time (about 10 times, if I were to guess).
Not to say that canât change, because I know it can. Just the past pattern, it always looks the same.
Literally just got a voice message from a client telling me âI feel like the luckiest person in the world to have found your workâ
Like I say, some peopel pay me for my teachingâŚothersâŚwellâŚthey are others
Never have you been there and done that that I
have seen. You always derail things from a content driven exchange into a rant about energy or some other stuff not relevant to the actual arguments
If you REALLY want to âgo thereâ I swear to you â I will get you on the phone with some of my clients. I would gladly make that happen, if you have any interest.
I Donât owe you that, but I really feel it might shift a lot for you. Let me know if you are interested.
& yes â I am dead â â â â â â â serious.
bypass & bullshit to protect your ego? Or get on the phone?
you want me to talk on the phone to your clients to prove what a great and life changing therapist you are? Thatâs a little unhinged and itâs unlikely to change my opinion that you donât ever engage in good faith debate here
How about this - Iâll talk to your âclientsâ if you go back,
rewind this conversation and find statements from me that show the double standard you accused me of.
No - youâre missing the point.
I would love to shift your reality to a more love oriented space & illigitimize the dismissive avoidant behavior you direct toward me out of the picture, so we can communicate on a real level. All you are xoing is avoiding & hiding.
You know beter than some of the things you are saying.
dismissive story, my manâŚ
When ppl judge, itâs an energetic way of being.
When ppl judge, that is their own self talk.
When you judge others harshly, you have to avoid looking at yourself, otherwise you woulx have to beat yourself up the same way if you were to take an honest look at yourself.
I know for a fact you beat yourself up 10 times more than you would ever beat anyone else up (verbally)âŚif there was an actual human sitting on your couch that spoke to you teh way you talk to yourself, you woulx have the cops remove them from your house.
Tis takes a lot of energy for me to xo, but Iâm gonna take you up on it.
Weâre gonna Do this, & you & I will be MUCH closer, by the time this is all done.
Iâm proud of you for taking this approach man!
Iâll be getting into this soon (maybe tonight)
Gotta run for now.
I see the laughterâŚ& yup âŚitâs much harder for dismissive avoidants to âsee themselvesâ than it is for âanxious preoccupiedâ
Gotta be willing to take a look at yourself in order to go through with it.
If you xonât plan to get on the phone or zoom, Iâm not going to spend the energy on thisâŚso if this is a manipulation tactic â please just own it.
Like I said. When you go back to the original argument see what you posted and either find statements from me on having a double standard or admitting you were wrong then we can talk about talking to your âclientsâ
