Yes! We have a bullying problem, and a muuuch bigger victim problem.
My newest client is a suicidal teen.
MASSIVELY shifted in just one call. Still have 6 months with him.
Younger humans are FAR more easily shifted than adults whose patterns have been more and more deeply entrenched for decades. Much easier to uproot the pattern in youths.
His mom is flattened by the amount of success in just one call, while the dad says “Merely addressing the issue and making him feel heard has helped so much already, as you haven’t even had time to deal with him.” He’s walled off, claims to be the “same thing I am,” and “read much of the same stuff,” etc, etc.
Dad is SO walled off. IDGAF what you’ve read, if you have intellectualized and not taken it into your heart, you’ve just gained more consciousness, and often times frustrated yourself even more…Lots of times people feel they have tried everythign," and they get frustrated that nothing works.
I could make this into a huge post.
Bottom line - it is muuuuuuuch easier to get to people this age. The PARENTS are the biggest challenge. It doesn’t matter how much they care, they don’t know what to do. I can look at this kid’s father for 10 seconds (literally), and see by the energy he carries himself with that DAD is the biggest challenge in his life. The kid loves his dad, looks up to him, but when dad comes across as a stand-offish prick, whose ego is unwilling to give credit anywhere, and has control patterns everywhere…the son will pick that up.
Kid doesn’t want to talk about anything because he “doesn’t want ppl to see him differently,” (basically fear of judgement)…juuuuuuuust…liiiiiike…dad.
80% of kids have the same sex parent as their primary role model, if both parents are around.
The parents and the system are creating this. It’s true that when boys get into a fight, they send them to a school counselor. Ridiculous. I think martial arts in gym class would help more than anything.
Programs like mine.
Helping them feel “normal” so they can feel safe.
When people don’t feel safe they hide, either through shutting down, lying (people lie when the truth isn’t good enough), putting up a front (another form of lie), etc.
The truth and authenticity bring us CLOSER. The very thing we fear is what causes others to relate, to empathize, to connect, and to love each other.
If youngsters didn’t get programmed to feel the opposite of that, the issues would be reduced by AT LEAST 95%.